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8 things NOT to say to women
This video is a must-see for anyone who plans to live in, work in, or travel to North America or Britain. You will learn about North American culture and things that may offend women.
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very interesting thanks Emma!
Lounid
hhhhhhh!Thank you Emma. funny & useful lesson
your all videos are awesome.. but i want to understand all of expression. so , if you add (english) subtitle i’d be grateful.. thank you all for great videos
I had the case when friend told me “oh You are pregnant”. I was that time a little bit thicker than i used to be, but i wasn’t pregnant. It made me feel really sad because of my weight.
Great lesson – as all Your lessons Emma.
thank
It was the most stupid, fascist episode i have ever seen.
I’m only publishing this comment to ward off accusations of fascist-style media censorship…
what’s so fascist in this episode?
What are the things not to say to men?
Lesson Very Good , Emma! Thanks very much.
Thank you Emma! It was a very instructive lesson. I will keep this on mind. I want to stay away from trouble. thanks again
Emma, are you PMSing? :)
One a more serios note: I’ve found this video to be quite off-topic, only number 8 from the list is somewhat relevant.. but then again, the mentioned words are quite obviously offensive.. any other words we should know about?
You might have to learn that the hard way :P
Yes, that’s true. I’m not questioning the usefulness of the lesson, but I think the anyone can easyly pay attention to that in its real life. No offenses, I try not to disrespect anyone. Besides, It also shows that to know what to say and when to say are great characteristics to anyone, at any place.
If possible, complete with a lesson about what we should say to women !! :)
thank you ,,
u are very amazing , ur lesson is so realistic .
awesome video! hope gays will take notes ;)
aida from algeria :)
great respects ms emma .it was a great lesson.sorry! What are other words beside slut,cunt and bitch that we should not say to a women.
Thanks Emma
Definitely I don’t say these words jn the list to women.
One day I heard a customer lady say to a cashier lady “Thanks sweetie” in some market store. Could men say it?
it is disgustingdoing thisvideo
Many Thanks Emma
How about things that are not supposed to say to men?
In Germany, we have pretty mutch the same rules in talking to women. But in England, in shops the saleswoman allways used terms like sweety, or even darling to me. And I am a man and a stranger to them. Is there a list “What not to say to men” too? A good leason, theacher.
Thank you, Emma, so much!
I learn much from you and EngVid!
thank you so much for these valuable points and suggestions.really it’s very useful I didn’t know much of these information before and all we get, we got it from movies which turns to be wrong. once more thanks
100 in the quiz!! I guess my being a woman has helped :)
thank you so much teacher Emma,but I would like to ask you if you could explain to me how can I distinguish between the pronunciation of (TH) like (then) and (TH) LIKE (THIN)?
JUST IF YOU CAN MY TRACHER.
In IPA, they are marked differently. Instead of using a dictionary, I try to watch movies with English subtitles and pay attention what people are saying and how, even though if sometimes I don’t fully understand what they are saying. xD
This is why: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOw7CdpK44w
but the real problem is “the period”
hhhhhhhhhhhh i agree with you sir !
Teacher-U are the best teacher I have ever had… I can’t express all my feelings as my vocab is not strong..I watch your lessons ,hear your voice and sees your face whenever I turn my laptop on..I not only love your language but your country toooo.
Sometimes, I think it would have been great if I had been born in your country and grown up there….. But , I have a hidden dream of visiting your oneday ….
But, I really can’t handle your language.It’s too hard to learn as I think that one should start learning English at the age of two or three.I’m now 23+,completed my school education.I can’t go back in the past nor can I grow up again.I have been a member of this educational as well as helpful website for more than one and half years,learned a lot but still can’t make a single appropriate sentence..I don’t know whatever I have written in this short comment is correct or not.You may find my comment hard to make out.I wanna start everything from the scratch.I need your suggestion.
I’ve been learning English since march 2012, and I can handle it. Also, I’ve never attended English classes. I’m 27, so you probably ask me “How is that possible?” I can tell you that all my knowledge comes from the internet. Watching vids on this website is only the tip of an iceberg in learning English. :) Look at this — http://img407.imageshack.us/img407/1235/dsc00038fy.jpg — over 500 pages a4 format. xD Can you imagine me writing this? There is also a translation of everything that I didn’t understand. It took me almost 3 months, of course, only my free time. I think that I would have written it faster, but you know, I also had other things to do.
Now, I don’t write by hand any more. I translate webpages using google translator toolkit. One webpage usually has 2 or 3 thousand of words. I’ve already translated 16. But this isn’t just a translation, I try to translate the webpages in a way that native speaker could write it. So, this is really hard “exercise”. xD
There is also another exercise that I try to do — comment. Here or on facebook, so if you or others want to learn along with me, we can be friends on facebook. This is my link facebook.com/morfikov — add me if you want. :)
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U r great!
great! Thanks Emma. I think nobody likes to hear those things it is the same here in Brazil.
hey i have problems in spelling,what must i do to inprove on it .
I really enjoy this video. I can learn english in my spare time at office
very helpful lesson Emma . Thanks very much
Excellent vid as always! This is my first time commenting (long overdue). I find this website an absolute treasure for ESL students and teachers :D
Please keep it going!
wow, women are such a complicate human beings!
Emma you rock!!! Thanks.
thank you you forget salary Q i was talking to woman and she told me you’re slut ??????
I wonder because i am man not woman
It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a girl. For example: You could say “cunt” to a man, and this doesn’t mean that he is a girl. This means only that he is acting like a girl. xD
1. Is there “Are you on your period?”?
2. Can I say: “Do you have a/your period?”?
If I see a woman who likes equal rights, I threat her like she was a man. And questions “How old are you?” or “How much do you weigh?” are normal. Yeah, I know I’m so rude. xD
100% correct thanks teacher
Emma, could you make a vid about these pairs of words?
altogether — all together
beware — be aware
endanger — in danger
for ever — forever
complement — compliment
every day — everyday
Congrats! I’ve never heard that honey, sweet, etc. are embarassing words. Good lesson!!!
Thank you very much. You are a good teacher.About this lesson that is the “bon sens” in French. Good sense is an international biaviour when you have an heart.
yeah, I know now why I’m single, I have said these words to girls. I would be more carefully, if I want a woman. thanks Emma cya.
You are right… Have a good day :)
ummm. No comment!!
thanks so much Emma to make attention for men about this subject because that word become so comment in our world
EMMA thank you very much. sometimes i used those words to women, also your video is a lesson to me in terms working somewhere.EMMA you are really great so interesting.
I got 100!
hi can you tell me what do you mean by you got 100 if it is possible i want just to know and excuse me
Sure. I just want to say I got 100% to my answers on the quiz. See?
Look that woman is the same around the world…lol. Nice lesson
I’ve deeply embarrased just by hearing those things! Thanks anyway.
in my country on the job or any place say honey, cupcake, or sweetheart to other woman is a nice thing. In other worlds is another way to be courtesy. Ironies. ;o)
Thanks
Thanks, but i would like to know when we have to use i would have done something, it is soo complicated. Please help me with that.
I think this video is like more giving lecture on society than teaching something.these video only teaches not to ask about women’s personal things at workplace.I request u to take a lect which give us more knowledge.I think many of us know this and this is very common
i got 90.I’m going to joke ,pls take it as fun. u got 100 then u must be expecting something …………. i mean price
Emma many thanks but, also do not ask the lady about her smiill do not tell her smell very bad
thank you very much emma, its agood notes to know how to deal with woman .
Hi Emma, thanks for the interesting lesson but, i don’t understand completely what means ”When are you due?
thank u so much dear Emma for your great lesson.
it’s good that we can learn your culture
and your language together. :D
Thank you very for the informative lesson.
really interesting lesson!!!! thank you, Emma!
Really it was very helpful… Thank Q Emma… :)
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I’ve got 90:-) It’s good for the beginning:-)
Really very nice lesson
Thanks Emma, this is very important …!
wonderful..thank you so Much
hi eemma.thanks for your good education. its very useful for me
i like english so much.
Thanks. I know it now.
Excellent and usefull guide.
Thanks in advance!
what an useful video! Thanks my teacher
Ok ;-) very usuful lesson… BUT… After that it’s really tempting to use these words or expression ;-) haha
Or maybe its much better not to talk at all to a woman, or use a short answers or questions, just on case ;-)))
And come on… to say ” you do that good, for a girl”…what’s wrong with taht?? well it’s hard not to say that when we see a woman parking a car for instance ;-) it is like saying that man are as good as babysitters as a woman…. NO, they are not ;-) I think we should learn to be more tolerate towards each other, not to find out whether something is offensive or not ;-)
And If we see a woman whose a bit overweight and ask her if she’s pregnant whose problem is that???? Come on….. ;-) haha
Believe whatever you want! Do whatever you want! Say whatever you want! This lesson and the other ones like it are for people from other cultures to know what the current standard is in North America. Once you know what is expected, you can choose to follow these “rules” or ignore them.
Hi EngVid… well of course you’re right ;-)
It’s just my weird sense of humour… remember I’m from Poland ;-))
I understood your opinion… maybe the title is the question… when we are talking about another culture I think is important we know something about behavior, then we could be a pleasant person… in general it’s just tips! Emma said maybe don’t happen anything if you say this word, but many women could feel uncomfortable! hugs
thank u Emma .. today learnt a new lesson from u
thanks emma.it is nice lesson .learn fresh things.good luck
I don know how can I appreciate this ?! Thanks guys
in nowadays even to say ms. or Sr can make some ones angry!!! maybe we will need a new word MsR for those who dont want to mention their gender;(
thanks emma . WE will apply your advices :)
thank you teacher for the lesson……
very usefull lesson!! However, I think these words are offensive for women not only in North America.
Thank you, very good
It would be wonderful that you make videos teaching french. :-)
Hello, The video is so interesting and rich. I really like it and I appreciate the way you covered that. I am looking forward to watching more videos of yours.
Best regards,
dziyane.
You are great teacher. I like the way you are teaching. Thank a lots.
thank u so much dear Emma for your great lesson
WHATE IT MEANS PERIODE PMS = Menstruation
thank you emma
I really appreciate this lesson, because I could learn what not to say to a woman and I also could learn some new vocabulary, thank you so much Emma.
You know, Emma, this video is very insulting for MEN. You assume that all men are idiots and they all sexist pigs. They don’t even realize that it is not appropriate to say words like whore or cunt in a work place. And a WOMAN should explain that to them like they are 3 years old.
Very SAD video. Very sexist. Very inappropriate!!!
Shame on you!
Oh, yes, just so you don’t assume that I am a man, I am a woman, 43 years old. And I don’t make secret out of it :)
If you could see the comments I delete, you’d see why this video is necessary… *sigh*
I think it is very important to know the cultural differences (especially for me as a man on this topic). It is a kind of interpersonal respect. Thank you for this video. You are are a really good teacher.
this lessons makes no sense. You make it sound all women are like this, offended easily etc. And for women who are like this. Stop being uptight. We are not living in the 60s and you are the ones trying to break free so this comes with the price.
I suggest re-watching the lesson, as I do not think you got the point.
Hi Emma
Thanks for your lesson. This will be very helpful for daily conversation. Would you Please list your ’8th number’ adjectives in accordance with their degree of severity. Which is the worst and which one is the mildest among them? That will be useful to know, especially when we do want to offend someone in some exceptional cases or to put some spice into routine conversation. Thanks again
very useful i really enjoyed watching it.
Very good tips. I really enjoyed the presentation. Congratulations Emma!
very important to do not be in embarrassing situation
Question 8 and 9 are so confusion for me. Thank you very much for providing English lesson on youtube online. It is nice for world wide people learning.
thank you Emma
ThankYou ,Emma,for good lesson.These expressions might be percieved quite acceptable by many people,because of how often these are used in american movies,songs and on programs.It almost sounds like casual language,I mean especially those in section eighth.For me it’s rude.By the way,please don’t get offended,Your “especially” sounds like “expecially”,is it something related to place You are from? best regards:)
May God bless you Emma for this lesson and many others. you are a blessing to this generation.
Williams
A very useful lesson, especially for those who do not have any experience of meeting a native speaker of English.The impact on hearing these words can be fully felt by only a native speaker. So a non native speaker who is interested in English should understand the connotation of different words in order not to embarrass others. Thank you Emma.
its very fantastic ,but i suggest to introduce new episode to show that what the women should to say for the men ?
I think this lesson is very important if everyone wanna learn English, also learn the other cultures. These are very similar to the words in my country. It’s really useful. Thanks a lot.
Thank you so much
Thanks so much! you made it helpful.
I have learn English with some good tips for good culture. This is very important for every one.
it’s such a good lesson! Thx so much! ^O^
very interesting. i got 100 marks thanks teacher Emma
hi emma ,you are really good teacher .May i have individual online class with you ? please reply my request as soon as possible via my email address .
thank you so much
very good. thank for lesson
THANKS EMMA :)
thank you Emma :)
hi, Emma It’s a interesting lesson for me
thanks.
It was good lesson that we need in our work places .
thank you learning is not a day job miss Emma thanks again.
i got 10 out of 10
Interesting and helpful… thanks a lot!!! : )))
Very useful lesson, but i want to ask if it is okay in north America to say that i mean women to women ;p thank u so much Emma
Thank you for cool lesson.
Very useful lesson, thank you very much
The lesson was interesting and we knew some of women charecter.
Thanks :)
Thank you pumkin;))
Hi emma
my problem in English is remember vocabularies
if I learned new words and there meaning in my language, maybe after less than 1 day I will forget
would you please tell me how I can save the words in my mind
Best regards
sorry
‘I would forget’
Thank you Emma .I will keep this on mind. I want to stay away from trouble. thanks again
The subtitles not is bad idea,Two video one with subtitle and other without it
thanks Emma, this is very interesting, i am happy got value 70,,..
I agree and have been following these RULES. :)
Thanks Emma, you are really amazing, excellent teacher I learned a lot from you.
very interesting lesson keep it up Emma.
Regards
Thanks a lot.It was really helpful and necessary to know.
Mina
Hi Emma,
U did a great job by introducing us to ur culture..I have studied Sociology that’s why I love 2 learn about other cultures..I’m from Pakistan,the things u mentioned r also considered bad here..These things r kind of universal for women..I forgot to tell you one thing, U r a brave, pretty and nice angel, with a clear heart, who has the courage to talk on a such a sensitive topic.KEEP IT UP..lol
Thanks Emma
you are very good teatcher
very good video this is real English in real live situations and it’s important to know what’s correct and not correct towards interacting with a woman.
tnx for this lesson
and inchallah nobody will offense you no more
THANKS EMMA !!! THIS COMMENT IS FOR EVERY VIDEOS I HAVE WATCHED IN YOUR CHANNEL. THANK YOU AND MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU.
ThenkS Emma
i,m happy you
9 outta 10.. nice questionaire
those rules still according to culure and behaviour company maybe it’s banned in your country but we can find it normal in another company, any thanx a lot for this lesson Emma.
100% THANKSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
Thanks, very very entrusting topic.
These culture tips are wonderful!
you doing a great job Emma
keep it up
Thanks a lot for this lesson
Thank you miss Emma, this is very helpful lesson.
thank you emma!! i will tray not to use others except darling. I am working customer service and most of the time I used to say darling for female customers. The amusing thing when I serve customers I always tray to be quick and If I serve five female customer subsquently and If next customer is male which is very funy I will say
thank you emma!! i will tray not to use others except darling. I am working customer service and most of the time I used to say darling for female customers. The amusing thing when I serve customers I always tray to be quick and If I serve five female customer subsquently and If the next customer is male which is very funy I will say
Thanks for the lesson
Thank you Emma, I feel interested in studying conversation skills. God bless you.
Thank you for the lesson Emma. May be you will be surprised but in Russia we also respect all these 8 rules. I think that for intelligent people from any country no need to explain such obvious things.
Hi Emma, What are the things not to say to men?
Thank you Emma, This very useful.
IT´S A USEFUL AND INTERESTING LESSON EMMA!!!
KEEP UP THE GOOD JOB!!!
Emma,
It was a good lesson for me that reminds me once again of how experienced man I am through you. Thank you so much. I don’t say “thank you very much , I say thank you so much because it comes from someone’s heart.
Deniz Demircioglu
tnx for these useful expressions
Hello Emma! First of all I want to say “Thank you” to ALL of you teachers at Eng.Vid.com, as I learn so much from the many lessons. I am from San Diego, Cal. and I am an English teacher here in Buenos Aires. I love teaching and meeting people and helping them to learn our language. As a ‘native speaker’ we ‘gringos’ are in demand here, and that is 10 points in our favor. Today I don’t have any classes, as it is a holiday in Argentina, so I am sitting here enjoying these educational lessons. Actually I don’t tell my students about your site, or they will quit my classes, and I would be out of work. Ha! Congratulations on your sweet and simple presentation, I enjoy each and every lesson. Keep up the good work Emma and may God bless you ALL at Eng.Vid.com Chau!!
it was awesome!!
How about women that she say to me hi sexy or how are you handsome. That is true. I am not lying. What should I say or do with them?(some of them when I meet them in the first time) in USA
That was fantastic, keep it up.
Nice to learn from you. Nice to read all comments. Great +++++
I really admire your way of teaching teacher Emma. I usually get bored when I take lessons except for you. I become totally interested in what you are teaching. I hope you’ll give more and more lessons on everyday language. I thank you very much.
9 correct out of 10 – Thomas from Poland thx
I think, It is a very good lesson, because it makes me understand, those little differences of mentality that people might have depending from which places were raised
Hi! ;)
You don’t mention f-word in the clause 8.
Is this word less offensive?
Or on the contrary, the f-word much much more vulgar, and the real lady just don’t know one.
:)
Hi Emma,
I don’t know what kind of women you know, certainly not women with the sense of humour hahahaha we are not so easy to upset.:)
I would like to thank you for all you give , thank you
interesting thanx Emma.
Awesome information emma
Very interesting English lesson of politeness too !
I hate when people ask me if I am pregnant. I think it is so invasive and impolite. People don’t even know me but they are so curious and nosy. Just hate it. There are so many reasons for a belly to be a little big, like having your period, like being overweight and many others. Why do they wonder so much about pregnancy?
Thanks a lot for your videos. You’re a great teacher. Keep on the good work.
10 from 10 :)
Hi Emma, I enjoy your lessons. You are very clear. it is easy to understand you. Thank you for the great lessons.
You have got very good teaching techniques. On top of that your smile and gestures make you a nice Teacher.
i’v got 100 , thanks Emma
Excellent presentation. I like how you broke down the information into the sections you did.
thanks
Good lesson thank you Emma
Emma,I´ve read some of the comments published in this lesson. I think this is totally a cultural matter. For sure, for someone this can be considered “fascist”, but it is real life in USA. I live in Colombia. We do not have exactly the same rules but it is important to know your rules, just in case a foreigner has to go to your country. Thanks!
Very good lessons and … having a look at some comments very useful too !
Thanks Emma !
thank u so much Miss.Emma sharp!
i feel i’m not confortable when some guys ask me for my age, i find that offensive.
this is the first time i study with emma and i got 100 points.:)
what should i say instead of ,are you having a baby?period ,girl stuffs.
i may give her a piece of advise about pms. how should she loose weight?she
has wrinkles on her face. i cant give advise on my own nor can she. the best
way is being polite but some people get upset .
very nice thanks Emma jan
Many Thanks!
After this lesson I am gonna smile the rest of my life! hahahaahhaa A u PMSing??? hahahahaah I love Emma’s lessons!!!
thanks for this great lesson!
Thanks for for this site it will help me to advanced more in English
thanks Emma
this kind of lessons are what i enjoy of this site, all of you teach the real english. :)
Emma, excelent lesson, just some questions:
What exactly does she say in the minute 1:45??
and in the minute 3:11?? I hope you can help me :)
All this things well-known.But in english helpful
- Bitch, whore, and slut are all very bad words that are offensive to women.
- ‘Bitch’ and ‘whore’ are offensive, but ‘slut’ is okay.
I’m laughing my ass off. You’re just made my day!
I think women hit these questions in everywhere.
I feel sad for those who wrote negative comments about this lesson. In my opinion it was a very good topic. It seems like those negative comments are from people who have never been to North America. It’s not like people are weird or anything like that, rather, it is a cultural issue. North America is about freedom, but with that , it comes respect, and responsability. Keep up the great work Engvid.com.
thank Emma and what is PMS
thank Emma
Thanks Emma
today’s topic was very funny
And The fact that there are more comments on this page than usual shows that this lesson is very popular among male students.
In this video, you speak fast and so I couldn’t get you at some points.
If it’s possible, I want English subtitles.
Thanks for the lesson like this kind of very sensitive words.Since becoming very strict like the regulation for sexcial harassment, we don’t say these words especially in workplace in Japan as well. But appreciate for the very useful lesson.Emma.
In America, you will see the wonders of things, a lot of questions women are sensitive from it and sometimes they will hate you because of these questions. By the way all like these questions are normally in my culture there is no problem with them. Thanks a lot Emma. We need more to learn from you.
thaaaaaaaaaaaaaaanx Emma your lesson is very interesting
thanks you Emma
i like to learn different cultures so thank you to know it Emma. you so wonderful teacher! please keep it up.
Thanks for this topic Emma! Now I can see the truth about my male colleagues :D
Give ‘em hell, OK? :)
Definitely ! :)
wow i got 10 out of 10
i got 90 :)
I live in Montreal and when I had my first job here, my manager often said me “You’re hot”, “you’re beautiful”, “I like the way you’re dressed up today” and one of my colleague used to call me “hey sexy”.
That made me feel very very uncomfortable, and they liked to see my face becoming red when they said me those phrases. It was like a game for them, very hard for me.
In another job, the CFO asked me to dress up with sexy short dresses. i was more confident at this time so i just told him to apologize and never ever ask for this again.
I have never had such those problems in France and I often wonder what is the problem of canadian men at work, some of them are very pervert and yet I work in places that people are supposed to be very elegant.
Thank you, Emma!
It was very useful lesson.
I suggest you to make a lesson about things that we shouldn’t say to all the people. Including maybe some undesirable topics people don’t want to talk about.
These are some things:
- Religion beliefs
- Politic views
- Something too personal to talk about…
It could be very helpful, I think.
very interesting lesson. thanks. i think you are right. i knew the age and weight but not the others.
thanks a lot dear Emma, i love you and your and your excellent teaching, and i have speaking and vocabulary problem, so what is your guides about?